ROBERT C. KOEHLER FOR BUZZFLASH AT TRUTHOUT
Things fall apart, the center cannot hold . . .
The "man's world" I grew up n is shattering into fragments of shame, contrition and desperate denial. Allegations of sexual harassment and abuse are catching up with powerful perps, sometimes decades after the fact. On Capitol Hill, we now know about a "creep list." Women shouldn't ride alone in an elevator with these guys. This is our democracy.
The only real surprise in all this is that suddenly it matters . . . that women -- as well as young males, children of both genders -- were harassed, humiliated, raped by powerful male adults: that "me too" resonates in the news. At one time, outright denial of a sexual abuse allegation wasn't even necessary because, even if it were true, so what? That was then. The idea of "a man's world" was solid and, well, boys will be boys.
"When Nelson got in Moore's car" -- this is Beverly Young Nelson, describing an attempted rape by Alabama Senate candidate Roy Moore in 1975 -- "she said he drove behind the restaurant and parked near a dumpster instead of taking her home. Nelson said Moore groped her and tried to force her head onto his crotch. Nelson says she yelled and tried to leave the car, but Moore locked the door.
"'I was not going to allow him to force me to have sex with him,' Nelson said. 'I was terrified. I thought he was going to rape me. At some point, he gave up.'
"Nelson said before Moore opened the door -- at which point she either fell out or he pushed her out -- he told her: 'You're just a child and I am the District Attorney of Etowah County, and if you tell anyone about this, no one will ever believe you.'"
She was then 16 years old.
Tempting as it is to revel triumphantly in moral judgment of Moore, the homophobe and evangelical hypocrite, I can't avoid putting his suddenly newsworthy behavior into a larger social context, not to let him off the hook but to figure out how real change can occur. Moore and all the other celebs and bigshots caught in the current avalanche of sex-abuse allegations have at least one thing in common. They grew up in a world where sex was a dirty secret and discussion of it was taboo, except adolescent-to-adolescent: "Did you get any last night?"
Men who attain power in such a world do so, often enough, unencumbered by maturity, which requires respect for the feelings of others. All they have is power and, creepily, a sense of permission.
And thus I quote President Trump: "And when you're a star, they let you do it. You can do anything. Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything."
A man's world is a world that values domination. It values winning. At the same time, it devalues "female" qualities: nurturing, empathy, love. These are for sissies.
And the House of Representatives has just approved the National Defense Authorization Act of 2018, with a military budget of nearly $700 billion to continue our wars around the planet. This is an increase of nearly $80 billion in military spending over 2017 -- at a time when virtually all other spending is slashed to the bone. There's a desperation here the size of an empire.
I mention this in the context of domination culture, with the US military leading the way. According to a Reuters story from six months ago, a staggering 6,172 cases of sexual assault were reported across the military in 2016, out of nearly 15,000 that actually occurred, according to the results of an anonymous survey. Eerily, the good news here is that the number of reported cases has nearly doubled from four years ago, when 3,604 cases were reported, out of an estimated 26,000 incidents that occurred.
However: "Fifty-eight percent of victims experienced reprisals or retaliation for reporting sexual assault," Reuters reported.
And: "The truth is that the scourge of sexual assault in the military remains status quo," Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand said.
I hope the "me too" movement doesn't let up, and that its power and impact begin to penetrate US military culture. I also hope the concept "it's a man's world" starts coming undone at the structural level and we start rebuilding our world around deeper values than winning and domination.
I know the world in which these sexual harrassers grew up; I grew up in it too. This is a world in which young people "come of age" -- come into their sexuality -- in utter isolation. While violence is lovingly spread across the entertainment and news media, sex remains sealed in cringing aversion.
Remember Jocelyn Elders? She was the former US surgeon general who, at a United Nations conference on AIDS in 1994, had the courage to respond candidly to a question about masturbation. Might teaching children about masturbation reduce unsafe sex? "I think that is something that is a part of human sexuality," she said, "and it's a part of something that perhaps should be taught. But we've not even taught our children the very basics."
Oh, the horror! Bill Clinton, responding to the shock and uproar these words provoked, immediately fired her.
And thus we live in a world in which powerful men are trapped in their own adolescence. Let's break the glass ceiling and free everyone.
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